Straight Talk For Women About Marriage

    Most young women and many older women marry a man not really knowing what they're getting into. Even women in their 40's and 50's considering marriage a second time very often do not know where they went wrong. This is largely due to the fact that basic information about men and marriage is not knowledge that is commonly passed on, as it should be. Are you aware, for instance, that men in their dealings with other men typically do not make eye contact, and for this reason are not inclined to make eye contact with women, unless they are interested? Did you know that most men tend to see marriage as a business arrangement, just as much or more so than as a love affair? Would you be able to forego interaction with your man when he comes home from work and needs to be by himself for awhile, in order for him to sort things out in his mind that are troubling him?
    Do you know that men generally prefer to chose the timing of lovemaking, even though many men relish their wife initiating sex? And the frequency of sex? Did you know that many men are forced to forego sex to the point of temptation to cheat? Did you know that testosterone is such a powerful hormone, that it wires men to think about sex five or six times an hour? Most men prefer a woman who is "a lady in the parlor and a whore in the bedroom". Are you ready for this?
    Most men prefer to rule over their own household, but how do you reconcile yourself to this without becoming a doormat? Marriage, like many other things in life, is a balancing act. Just as you would not want your husband to put you down in front of your children or in public, it is unwise for a woman to put her husband down in front of others.
    New buzzword: "wedding-cake attitude": many men, perhaps even the majority of men who have experienced marriage, complain that their wife would not engage them sexually after they had cut the wedding cake with them. After that, their will to gratify their husband sexually diminished significantly, leaving the husband to feel used and neglected. This is purportedly one of the major reasons many divorced men ages 30-70 do not want to marry again. A parallel complaint of this is that many women just lie there during sex, rather than participating in the pleasuring of their man and in the receiving of pleasure. The best solution would be to discuss sex openly, along with other issues that will be important in your relationship, before marriage.
    RomanticFlair.com would like to help you get the information you need before you marry, so that you will have an informed basis upon which to build your relationship and your marriage. Everyone goes into marriage with certain expectations, many of which are not practical because of this lack of information. Divorce for most people is ugly and painful, especially if there are children involved. You can increase your potential for a successful marriage exponentially by informing yourself and beginning to act on this knowledge. Men tend to suffer silently, but of late, men have begun to speak out about their needs.
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