Men


Be a gentleman. (Polite does not mean wussy.)
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Be attentive.

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Romance only that woman that you truly cherish.
(Devotion goes with cherishing. If you cannot pair the two,
forget it! Women are devastated every day by men who romance and then leave them. Would you want someone to treat your sister
or mother that way?)

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Get your finances in order.
(Money problems can destroy anything in their path!)

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Make her feel special (i.e. beautiful, desirable, loved, attended to).

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Proceed calmly & confidently & take your time.
(Believe it or not, patience, especially coming from a man, is an aphrodisiac.)

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Always have a plan!
(Be reasonably flexible if your plan is not entirely acceptable with your date. Have alternate ideas that are practical. If you need help with creative dating ideas, check out our site and the
reference books we recommend.)

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Try to please, but maintain your male dignity.
You're the leader. Give her reason to believe in you.

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Weave her likes and dislikes into the fabric of your mutual romantic involvements.

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Romance is a form of mutual pleasure. Don't forget to factor your own pleasure (i.e. fun) into your romantic involvements. If you can't do this, you are likely with the wrong person.

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Men are into significance, and women are into security. Make her feel secure (i.e. beautiful, desirable, loved, protected, supported, cherished). Likewise, evaluate your sense of significance with her in your life. If you are dissatisfied, do not consider marriage. This lack of satisfaction will undermine your relationship somewhere down the road. The romance will die with it.

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As a male, you have an incredible sexual power. Bring this power under control, and you will be able to bring romance to a "to-die-for" level.

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If you want to be able to treat a woman well and still think of yourself as a man, take the example of two men: Justin Matisse from the Sandra Bullock movie "Hope Floats" and John Mills, who plays the father in Walt Disney's "Swiss Family Robinson". They possess a male romantic art that has largely been forgotten by the last two generations of men in North America.

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Women


Take him out on a date! (Not recommended for a first date!)
Pay the bill yourself.
Do something fun and adventurous. He is likely to remember you fondly.

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Make a little envelope out of construction paper and glitter, and present it to him filled with romantic coupons, or if you are married, hot romance coupons.

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Invite him over for dinner. Make him his favorite dish. Set the mood with romantic lighting and romantic music.

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Surprise him with a romantic gift--send him flowers with a supportive or comforting message, buy him a copy of one of his favorite movies with a box of his favorite comfort food, offer to walk his dog two days of the coming week, send him a
romantic e-card.

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Men are impressed by a woman who is a good conversationalist. Make an effort to stay up on the national and international news and at least some of the major political issues. Develope a well-thought-out opinion of basic issues. Inform yourself to a reasonable extent regarding his type of work.

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A lot of men like long hair. It's sexy, and it makes them feel sexy. This applies to any age, but especially if you are in your 40's or 50's, think twice before you part with your tresses. Men in this age group tend to equate short hair with frumpiness . Long hair has a romantic power all its own!

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It takes imagination to come up with an exciting date or engaging lovemaking. Support your man by having a few ideas ready yourself. You might even write out a list of things you would like to do and offer it to him, or simply surprise him. Make it memorable!

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