Most importantly, are you willing to affect your own mindset for romance? Are you willing to make changes in the way you think and in the way you do things that will translate into a romantic you? Romance is not difficult, once you decide this is how you want to be. To infuse your lifestyle with romance, practice the following with as much consistency as possible:

      1. Love yourself first in a healthy way, then you can love others. Drop the selfishness/self-absorption.
      2. Take a serene (calm, peaceful) approach to the situations of life. This is not meant to exclude righteous anger.           It is meant to exclude any other type of anger, dwelling on disappointment, letting yourself into the drama of a           situation, the use of disrespectful, hateful, and vulgar words, aggression, accusing, and refusing to forgive others.
      3. patience (this can take real effort in today's fast-paced world).
      4. kindness
      5. devotion (deep, steady affection, loyalty, faithfulness)
      6. romantic ideas
      7. sensitivity to the needs of others / of your lover
      8. excellent respectful communication
      9. Watch some movies from the Era of Romance (the 1800's). Observe the manner of interacting.
    10. Try to please.

     If you are intent on romantic love as a part of your romantic lifestyle, check out our marriage romance pages, and ask your spouse if he or she would agree to a more exciting marriage. Using the word "romance" can be counterproductive at this stage, as many men equate romance with extra work! If your wife proves to be indifferent or suspicious, let her know that you would like to spend more quality time with her (time does not necessarily equal physical intimacy). There is a certain amount of diplomacy to romance, especially if your spouse is resistant. Don't ever let yourself show anger if your request is denied or put off. This will only make the process more difficult, and it may result in total resistance.
     You can begin to realize a romantic lifestyle by looking forward to romance with your spouse. Work on removing any romance killers from your style, and incorporate better romance techniques into your style. You might have to work on this for a while, before it becomes second nature. RomanticFlair.com wholeheartedly encourages you to acquire and read our expert advice on romance. These books will give you many ideas about how to clear obstructions to romance and a romantic lifestyle, as well as specific help with particular romantic acts and occasions.